Raising children is a difficult task for any parent, especially those bringing kids up for the first time. It is more problematic if they are more than two. However, a particularly challenging phase is parenting adolescents and teenagers. Three of the most commonly asked questions are: how can a parent deal with teen mood swings and tantrums? How can a parent teach a teen to be responsible and avoid harmful behavior? How can a parent improve communication with their teen? A more specific point of interest would be exploring parents’ ways of correcting their teenagers after they have done something wrong. It is particularly difficult because many youngsters tend to create an antagonistic reaction towards the parent afterwards. Nonetheless, children of this age need guidance and assistance from their parents.
Article 1: 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Teens and Tweens
Barker, J. (2011). 5 mistakes parents make with teens and tweens. (WebMD).
- Summary of Findings
One common mistake that parents undertake is expecting the worst from their sons and daughters. A parent who expects negativity from their children will find it difficult to create a meaningful bond with the teen. Additionally, it manifests the theory where expecting the worst can endorse the same behavior in them. Another common mistake parents commit is reading too many parenting books. Some of the instructions do not fit in the setting of all parent-teen relationships. As a result, they end up worsening the situation when they follow everything in the book. According to the article, they should not focus on the irrelevant issues and ignore the more serious ones. For instance, many parents are concerned on issues such as hairstyle and major problems such as alcohol abuse.
- Relevance of the Article to the Research Questions
The article is relevant to the research questions as it focuses on the common parents’ mistakes. According to the article, parents’ action can result in negative consequences in teenagers’ upbringing. Many parents question the actions they take to ensure a better upbringing of their youngsters.
Article 2: 10 Parenting Tips for Raising Teenagers
Davis, J. (2003). 10 parenting tips for raising teenagers. WebMD.
The article by Jeanie Davis provides parents with several tips that they can implement to improve their association with their teens. One suggested strategy is that parents should give their teens some room for personal growth and experiences. Another technique for getting better relationship bonds with teens is to invite their friends over. It is a fact that regardless whether a parent is happy about their teenager’s friends or not, they will have social ties. The best way to understand these friends is through welcoming and interacting with them regularly. The author suggests tips relating to ways that both the child and the parent can follow. Parents should involve their teenagers in coming up with house rules, regulations, and responsibilities to avoid the feeling that they are controlled.
- Relevance of the Article to the Research Questions.
The article is relevant to the research questions in that it has information on parents’ ways of teaching their teenagers. The article is of benefit to parents who are concerned with ways of teaching their children to be responsible.
Article 3: Raising Teenagers: The Mother of All Problems
Cusk, R. (2015). Raising Teenagers: The Mother of All Problems. The New York Times.
The author gives an overview of her experience with her daughter. She describes her relationship with her teenage daughter as different from when she was a toddler. In many occasions, most parents find themselves in similar compromising situations with their teenagers when they are hostile and irritable. The author gives more examples of parent-teen relationships that are not smooth, proving that indeed the phase is critical. In some examples, the youngsters have defected from living with one parent (in the case of divorce), and opted to move in with the other because they do not have stern rules. Raising teenagers is difficult, and it sometimes requires making tough decisions.
- Relevance to Research Questions
The article is relevant to the research questions in that it provides numerous scenarios of parents who are in the dilemma of raising teens. They have had to deal with mood swings and tantrums that in some cases have turned verbally abusive. However, parents can take up multiple measures based on the character of their children. When a teenager is hostile, the guardian should be more stringent. According to the article and in response to the research questions, guardians should be aware that as much as the youngsters should be given their free space to express themselves, there should be limitations and rules to follow and respect.
Article 4: Teen Temper Tantrums: 3 Steps to Stop the Screaming
Kramer, M. (n.d.). Teen Temper Tantrums: 3 Steps to Stop the Screaming. Empowering Parents.
The author mainly focuses on conflict resolution between parents and their teens. He compares the difficult years of parenting teenagers, especially on children around the age of two. However, the difficulties are unique since parents deal with rational young adults who strive to identify themselves. They are in a phase of crossfires of childhood and adulthood demands. The author indicates that teenagers experience tantrums as they are undergoing personal transformation. They become self-centered and are gradually becoming entitled to their individual needs and actions. One major step of controlling teenage tantrums is to reward trust-earning behavior. Another step is to look for good traits among the teen’s goals and motivate them to achieving it.
- Relevance to Research Questions
The article to the research questions since it highlights the possible causes of dispute between parents and teenagers. The author helps to see a way of dealing with teen’s tantrums. Parents should encourage positive traits in their children. In doing so, they are able to bond with them over positive aspects only. Additionally, the article helps readers to understand that teenage grumpiness may be a result of other external factors. Thus, parents need to try and understand the root causes of such irritabilities.
Article 5: Why Girls Talk, and What They’re really Saying
Shaffer, S. M., & Gordon, L. P. (2005). Why Girls Talk–and What They’re Really Saying. McGraw Hill Professional.
The author focuses on the teenage girl, stating that communication is a fundamental aspect of raising teenagers. However, the communication techniques of teens are not as direct as toddlers. For instance, it is not a guarantee that a teenager expresses their feelings. If they do, they may not express themselves clearly. Therefore, parents should be able to decipher deeper meanings of their teenagers’ conversations and act accordingly. For example, a teenage daughter may want to know how to cook a particular meal. The girl’s sudden interest may be a spark of responsibility, and a parent should not hold back such growth.
- Relevance to the Research Questions
The author provides relevance to the research questions regarding how parents can deal with their teens. Children are able to express themselves fully, but that is not the same when it comes to young adults. Parents can use the suggested techniques stipulated by the author to improve their communication with their teenagers.
Article 6: Parenting Teens – The Ten Most Commonly Asked Questions and Concerns
Daniele, T. (2014). Parenting Teens – The Ten Most Commonly Asked Questions and Concerns. Teen Discipline 101.
The article contains commonly asked questions and their responses. The author uses a Q and A format to respond to some of the major concerns regarding teen parenting. Daniele (the author) states that every unique situation that a teenager is facing should be handled independently. For instance, some scenarios are not worth throwing a fit about, for example, the shelf tidiness of the youngsters’ rooms. However, parents should not take all situations lightly. Some behaviors such as smoking are harmful to their health. Therefore, parents should not ignore them.
- Relevance to the Research Questions
The article is relevant to the research questions as it highlights all the major concerns that parents have regarding their teenagers. Moreover, the author provides a general overview that works for most parents. The methods of teen parenting are diverse, which makes it difficult for adults to select suitable courses of actions that will work for their teenagers. Finally, the article is relevant to the research questions because it gives an insight of the possible alternative options for parenting.